Freedom To Marry Marches Across The Globe

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Eighteen nations legally allow the freedom to marry for same-sex couples nationwide (Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland, Argentina, Denmark, France, Brazil, Uruguay, New Zealand, Britain, Luxembourg and Finland)

Two very large nations have regional or court-directed provisions enabling same-sex couples to share in the freedom to marry (Mexico and the United States [soon to be nationwide]). In Slovenia, Parliament approved a marriage bill in March 2015, and it awaits signature by the President.

Fourteen other countries provide legal protections for same-sex couples through “unions.”

As more and more countries—and hopefully soon in the United States with a Supreme Court decision—win the freedom to marry, families are supported and communities and countries strengthened by protecting all loving committed couples. The world can become stronger while growing kinder and more respecting of freedoms.

I Am Not A Hipster–Has The Peak Of Hipster Arrived?


Once reserved for the disaffected upper-middle-class millennial, the hipster trend has experienced widespread adoption in design, decorating, eating, dressing, marketing, and huge sales for associated products over the last decade. Fortunately, for some of us, “Brooklyn, where the hipster trend originated, has moved on from the term and the ethos,” and so, hopefully, will the rest of the country—Fortune Magazine is guessing soon in a recent article on investments that maintained valuations of hipster-modulated firms is peaking. Couldn’t happen quickly enough for me.

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Hipsters have characterized the intellectuals and the underemployed who embrace a seemingly (but not) low-cost, retro style—ruining the lifestyle of restaurants, pubs, and fashion that I enjoyed before the steampunk absurdities of hipsters. Hipsters have a pretension to an “authentic culture” even while it is a borrowed observation from their daddy’s or granddad’s era. But, unless you’re Actually Frank Sinatra—and you’re not—everyone else looks utterly ridiculous in a fedora. I roll my eyes at you. Without authenticity there is no message or reaction to the widespread society that had in the past stimulated a rebellion of creative energies.

The originators of subcultural authenticity were truly reacting and carrying forward a message and viewpoint. The beatniks and hippies were reacting to society-level characteristics (conformity, political and cultural conservatism), and the punk and grunge folks (Slackers? Generation X?) developed a cultural rebellion, reacting against a perceived stultifying corporate culture (especially through music, though not exclusively). Hipsters today, on the other hand, form around preferences more than broad ideologies.


Hipsters are a more general taste culture, embodying a number of differing critiques of modern society in a more encompassing but less articulated way, perhaps because of the interwebs and Instagram. Rather than a subculture, they are more accurately a “consumer taste culture.” For, although hipster is a trend nominally based upon anti-consumerism, it is more accurately a movement driven by consumerism with a shellack of “anti-,” the exact opposite of authentic subcultures. Hipsters fit perfectly within the values of a large part of the mainstream, the so-called “Bobos” or Bourgeois Bohemians who believe they “self-curate.” Rebellion and societal change come not by activism and agitation but, for the hipster, through the style of things bought.


Don’t misunderstand, my axe-to-grind is not with hipsters’ inauthentic anti-consumerist consumerism. We are all consumers operating under a set of consumerist assumptions validating a chosen lifestyle. So, I, too, am a consumer and a consumerist. I simply don’t like or appreciate the chosen style of the hipsters. And I don’t like it’s spillover effects that have destroyed my preferred lifestyle in most public settings. Hippies weren’t my thing either, though I had older friends that were hippies, but their “style” didn’t bleed over into good restaurants and mass merchandisers.

My preference is for a more future-oriented and more sophisticated and cosmopolitan taste and culture, a sense of luxury and upscale affinity (you don’t need to be rich to do this). I cringe at a hipsterism that tries to eschew modernity with: craft food and spirits, rustic plank flooring and thick wood tables, fedoras, thick-rimmed glasses, Paul Bunyan beards and mustaches, plaid shirts and skinny jeans with cuffs rolled up, converse sneakers, fashionably unkempt hair—everything that has no air of authenticity and implies a fake sensibility of rustic individualism with eyes fixated on past superficial styles to comfort a present that seems to offer no future.

And the restaurants! Can we get our restaurant groups back from this muck? How about some textiles, padding, sound-deadening and color—the Pantone color chart goes beyond browns. And, please, can we fire all the “Mixologists” and rehire those who admit they’re all bartenders? I love a great bartender, but I despise “Mixologists.” I have a lot of “-ists,” and they all went to school forever and busy themselves saving lives, and they charge me a fortune—well, so do the “Mixologists.”


Ah, but one thing that both hipsters and I like is PBR, a cold can of Pabst Blue Ribbon. My go-to beer had always been micro-brewed beers. Then that became so passée as every city in every state had every Millennial and GenXer and Late Bloomer who came to despise the corporate world in which they succeeded turn to the generically hip path of supposedly cool entrepreneurship. Micro-brew became “craft beer,” or rather generic-brew with pseudo-vintage stylings and absurd flavoring. So, for me, it came to be PBR on a hot summer day or, otherwise, a good traditional european pilsner.

Moreover, craft beer/craft drinks became a culture or hobby that anoints the drinker with the credibility of “a foodie,” or the food hipster. They’re part of a faux-agrarian utopia of semi-ethical nonsense, bought by people who enjoy feeling part of an elite community through the products they buy, like fried pig’s ear…locally sourced, of course. I’m so tired of paying high prices for proteins that were previously considered low-grade and fatty or tough. I’m fine with farm-to-table, but I’d like to get more than three baby carrots, twelve kernels of corn, and three halves of brussels sprouts on my plate…you can skip the faux-artistic smear of whatever sauce took three days to make and cost me six dollars (there’s so little, I can’t taste it anyway).

If it’s true it’s all on its way out, then smiles and better living (and eating out in the city) are to follow…I hope.

As for the investor class in hipster-centric stocks, Fortune has one bit of advise that gives hope to a more thriving future-oriented culture: “Get out while you can. And ditch the beard.”

In St Louis, Riot Boarding Becomes Art For Hope

A project of peace in the aftermath of rioting in St Louis brings a message of hope through art on boarded up shops.









Michael Brown & Ferguson | Facts & Reality — Not The Same Thing

I’ve been trying to understand why different groups of honest and sincere people see the same incident of Michael Brown’s killing in Ferguson, Missouri and come to very different conclusions. Yes, primarily, it seems as if “whites” conclude that this is simply a case of a thuggish boy acting wantonly, provoking police, and causing his own demise. And yet, “blacks” seem to see the incident more personally, as an indictment of their own experience, and have reacted as if the justice system denied each of them due process.

One group has no identification with the victim or the situation and views it detached and isolated. One group sees themselves vicariously as the victim. I’d not been able to quite understand the contrasting perspectives, until I read the article below. I think the authors performed a service for us all if we take the time to think about what they are saying, and I think they may have hit the situation spot on.

Ferguson killing: the facts and the reality

People’s own lives can make for different views of Brown slaying.

By Victoria Loe Hicks  and Craig Schneider with Atlanta Journal Constitution

When white people talk about the death of Michael Brown, they talk about facts. When black people talk about it, they talk about reality.

They are not the same thing.

Deena Mann Maxson of Hiram looks at the facts of Brown’s shooting: that he reached into Officer Darren Wilson’s car, that he was facing and perhaps advancing on Wilson when he was killed. She does not see what happened in terms of race.

“Brown committed a crime and assaulted and attacked Officer Wilson when questioned. Officer Wilson was doing his job. Stop committing crimes and there won’t be an issue,” Maxson said.

Wade Clark of Duluth looks at the reality of Brown’s shooting: that black people are far more likely to be shot by police than white people, that many African-Americans have felt the indignity of being challenged by police or store security for merely being “out of place.”

“You very rarely see white guys getting shot like this,” said Clark, 32.

That’s not to say that black people have ignored the facts of the Brown case. They question, for example, the unusual nature of the grand jury that heard evidence against Wilson, and also the way the evidence was presented. All of which reinforces, for many, the idea that the Brown shooting was less an isolated event than a point on a long and dismal continuum.

White Americans and black Americans can look at the same thing and see something quite different — not because of what they’re seeing but because of where they’re standing. Those remarkably different perspectives lead to misunderstanding and frustration on both sides.

Bridging that divide will not be easy, but even in the heat of moments like these, some people, police included, are determined to try.

‘Police officer is a very scary job’

Much of the conversation relates to the relationship between the police and the black community. The work of scholars and government analysts is awash in statistics about the intersection of race and justice.

Here is perhaps the most stark: Black teenagers are at 21 times greater risk of being shot dead by police than white teenagers, according to a report last month from the investigative journalism website ProPublica. The analysis examined 1,217 deadly police shootings included in federal law enforcement data from 2010 to 2012.

As an African-American, Wade Clark feels some whites look at him and see every black criminal they’ve seen in the news. “You see one do a bad thing and we’re all judged. We have to constantly prove ourselves. It’s frustrating,” he said.

Bill Florence, 57, lives in Dunwoody, but he used to work in Clayton County as prosecutor. Florence, who is white, said racial perceptions may have influenced Officer Wilson’s behavior.

But he said it’s important to weigh his actions in the context of a police officer’s experience.

“Let’s face it, being a police officer is a very scary job,” he said. “You never know when it might be your last minute or somebody else’s.”

Faced with making split-second decisions, an officer can’t stop and evaluate whether racial stereotypes are clouding his or her judgment, he said.

“You can’t think about the socioeconomic forces at work, because a bullet could be coming at you,” he said.

Driving while black’ in America

Deaths like Michael Brown’s are relatively rare. At the other end of the spectrum are simple traffic stops, the most common interaction between all citizens and police.

In its most recent survey, in 2011, the federal Bureau of Justice Statistics found that 12.8 percent of black drivers reported being stopped by police in the past year; for whites, the number was 9.8 percent. Twice as many blacks (32.5 percent) as whites (16.4 percent) believed they were stopped for no legitimate reason. They were equally likely to feel that way whether the officer was white or black.

Once they were stopped, black drivers were more than twice as likely to be searched and also more likely to be ticketed.
Among African-Americans, “everybody has stories” of the perils of “driving while black,” said Carol Anderson, an associate professor of African-American studies and history at Emory.

For her, one such incident occurred while she was driving accompanied by a white friend in the friend’s neighborhood. Anderson made a quick turn and the police lights appeared behind her. Her friend started railing that she had made that quick turn often without any trouble, that Anderson being pulled over was just wrong.

Her outrage didn’t comfort Anderson; it scared her, because she feared it might inflame the cop. “I was like, ‘Shut up,’” the scholar said. “(My friend) is not going to get shot. I can easily be shot. My Ph.D. doesn’t matter.”

‘They should start asking questions’

Researchers have reported for decades that African-Americans make up a disproportionate share of people arrested, convicted and imprisoned in this country.

What’s difficult to know for sure is why.

No one is arrested for the vast majority of reported crimes, so there’s no way to know the races of the ones who evade prosecution. That opens the possibility that racial bias is behind the discrepancies in arrests and convictions. But it doesn’t prove it.

Perhaps, in a country that is majority white, lawmakers, police, prosecutors, judges and juries do share an opinion that black people are inclined toward criminality. Even if that bias is unconscious, the likely result — blacks being more likely to be arrested and prosecuted than whites — would only reinforce the belief.

“It’s certainly something that should get your attention and you should start to ask questions,” said David A. Harris, a professor at the University of Pittsburgh school of law who is an expert on racial profiling, police conduct and accountability. “Does this reflect discrimination? You can’t make that judgment without knowing more. But a pattern of disparity should be enough to make police departments, courts, whoever, they should start asking questions about whether they have a problem.”

‘Biased policing is not legitimate policing’

It’s also possible that the circumstances in which black people commit crimes — for instance, the open-air drug markets that plague some low-income neighborhoods — make criminals who operate in such settings easier to catch. And, once caught, they are less likely than whites to have the money to hire a skilled defense lawyer.

When it comes to the fraught relationship between African-Americans and police, it may be that both sides come to any encounter primed with suspicion, expecting the worst. Sadly, our expectations sometimes affect our behavior in ways that turn those expectations into self-fulfilling prophesies.

Some leaders in law enforcement are sufficiently worried about the reality or perception of bias to have created a working group designed to research and prevent it.

“Biased policing is not legitimate policing and leads to mistrust in the communities that most need effective law enforcement services,” said a report from the group, the Consortium for Police Leadership in Equity. “This perception is driven in part by historical realities and in part because the percentage of stops that result in valid arrests tend to be relatively low and the number of innocent racial/ethnic minorities subjected to police stops, frisks, and searches tends to be relatively high.”

‘Staggering disparity’ in arrest rates

The Ferguson shooting spurred a flood of fresh analysis that reinforced the findings of previous research.

Just this month, USA Today identified a “staggering disparity” in arrest rates based on race in communities across the country, based on a nationwide analysis of arrest data.

In Ferguson, blacks are almost three times as likely to be arrested as non-blacks. The newspaper’s analysis found more than 1,500 communities, including some of the largest in metro Atlanta, with even greater disparities between white and black arrest rates.

In Atlanta, the arrest rate is more than five times greater for blacks. In Sandy Springs and Marietta, it’s more than three times higher. In areas patrolled by DeKalb County Police, arrest rates are more than four times higher for blacks. For Clayton County Police, it’s five times higher. Among the jurisdictions included in USA Today’s analysis, Acworth was the only place in the five core metro counties with no racial disparity in arrest rates.

Another recent report, by scholars at Stanford, sheds a startling light on one impact of such statistics. In their study, the data didn’t make whites favor reforms; rather, they increased support for get-tough-on-crime policies.

The toll of the ‘war on drugs’

In the U.S., the “war on drugs” epitomizes those policies. After the war began in the 1980s, drug offenses became the leading source of convictions in the United States.

Drug offenses are also one area where it’s possible to test the justice system for bias. That’s because independent data, gleaned through large, anonymous surveys, show how many people use drugs and which types they use.

Contrary to popular perception, by far the most common drug crime prosecuted in the past few years has been possession of marijuana. Although surveys show that whites and blacks use pot at nearly the same rate, blacks are 3.7 times as likely to be arrested for possession, according to an analysis by the American Civil Liberties Union.

In Georgia, 65 percent of all drug arrests in 2010 were for marijuana possession. Sixty-four percent of those arrested were black.

In the 1980s and ’90s, cocaine was the target of legislators, prosecutors and police. As crack began to flood into poor neighborhoods, Congress passed laws designed to stem its rise. One set the minimum sentence for possession of 5 grams of crack at five years but left the maximum sentence for possession of any amount of powdered cocaine at one year.

Subsequent federal studies found that more than 80 percent of inmates serving time for crack were black, although studies showed the majority of users were not. Data also showed that blacks served roughly as much time for nonviolent drug offenses as whites did for violent crimes.

‘They’re going to get pulled over’

So, back to this facts-vs.-reality thing.

In many instances, whites and blacks do seem to be talking past each other from different planets. But that doesn’t mean they can’t reach beyond the boundaries of their own experiences and grasp the nuances of a complex and intractable problem.

Ronnie Burden is 46 and black. The Decatur resident thinks police sometimes shoot black suspects “at the drop of a hat,” but he acknowledged some young blacks bring trouble upon themselves.

“Our youth, some are very much out of control,” he said.

Myna Helfont is 86 and white. The Sandy Springs resident thinks the way many young black men present themselves is a provocation.
“If these kids want to look like gangsters, they’re going to get pulled over,” she said.

But, she, too, sees another side to the story.

“(Blacks) don’t trust the police and there are incidents in which innocent young boys are pulled over. It leads to a lot of distrust,” Helfont said.

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Ferguson: A Black & White Conversation

A conversation I read online between two humans trying to understand each other and what has happened. A little more talking, and trying, and understanding will make a better world.


I have a number of white acquaintances. I even have a few white friends. The latter are people who simply accept me and all of my eccentricities. They judge me, they yell at me, they tell me I don’t understand. For the most part, my white friends know I never really think of them as my ‘white’ friends.

Why start this off with the above? Well. It’s actually rather simple. We live in a race society and a racially divided country and race, for the most part, has a bearing on almost every single solitary action in our existence. I choose to start this off with a reality. It doesn’t matter if I am walking around in a high end store or wanting to buy a house. The differences scream at us whether we want them to or not. Try as we might to NOT see the differences and as politically correct as it may be to not even mention the differences, if you can’t discuss those differences then are you truly friends?

What’s going on in Ferguson, MO is tragic and backing down behind the argument “we don’t really know what happened around that police car. Wait for the facts to come out” does not quite grasp the anguish and horror as well as the complete and total frustration so many blacks in that town and blacks all over America experience, not feel but actually experience directly each and every day of our lives.

Getting pulled over for “Driving while Black” is not some cute little saying nor does this cute little saying fully grasp the horror of what it is to pass by a police car, look at him while he looks at you going by and KNOW you need to prepare to pull over. Not once or twice or in some small southern town but the absolute reality of this in big and medium American cities. Black children may be taught to respect the police but we come to understand that we must FEAR the police. They will shoot us. They will beat us. They will harass us. Usually with little or no provocation. This is a reality for us. For us the police force is a military force with all of the enjoined powers thereof, and it’s not a black cop nor a white cop because all cops are blue.

My white friends and I have this conversation and some of them get that they cannot understand no matter how many facts they may have about our existence. They try. They really do but they cannot. They are sympathetic and get it intellectually but the reality of having a police officer order one to show ID simply because you are walking down the street or to have someone follow you around a store… or even to ask a police officer for directions. It’s terrifying for those of us who are law abiding citizens. What about those who straddle it or flat out break the law.

This is a terrifying time in Ferguson but this is only the reality that we live with each and every single day and it does not make it to the media and when it does it’s downplayed because the victim is black. Let’s face it he already has two strikes against him. He’s black and he’s male. Anything that happens… well the cops are probably justified.


Some of us whites have an inkling. If we are dressed in really casual clothes, torn blue jeans, 3 day beard etc, the cops are more likely to harass us when out walking, store clerks watch us and so on. Many whites and other races have experienced this unfortunate class-based discrimination.

However, there is a big difference – all my fellow whites and I have to do is put on a suit and tie and the police usually turn much more courteous. From talking to blacks and reading accounts in the news the discrimination happens no matter what. It must be a terrible feeling to live in a society where you are constantly under suspicion wherever you go or what you do.

When prejudicial thoughts enter my mind I try really hard to not let them turn into action. I believe we all can reduce each form of discrimination in society if we have the self-discipline and courage.


Election Feedback From Canada — “When Done With Obama, Send Him Our Way!”

I understand the Canadian confusion. Our electorate does defy reason — and a whole lot of other things that suggest thoughtfulness.

Canada On Obama And Election

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